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IQ Tonårsparlören - Frågor och svar om ungdomar och alkohol

SUMMARY OF ADVICE FOR PARENTS

Listen
  • Don’t offer teenagers alcohol and don’t buy it for them.

    Teenagers who get alcohol from their parents drink more. You can’t teach your child how to drink alcohol. The only thing you’re teaching them is to drink.

  • Be interested and listen.

    A good relationship is mainly about building confidence in each other. Show that you’re interested in what your child is thinking and what they’re going through.

  • Show that you care.

    Being considerate or talking about your feelings with your teenager is never a daft thing to do. If you’re worried, tell them why.

  • Trust yourself.

    Try to listen to yourself, to what you really think about this and that. As a parent, you have the right to do what feels best for you.

  • Be clear and set limits.

    The more clearly you show what you expect, the easier it is for your teenager to do what you say.

  • Get help from other parents.

    It can sometimes be useful to talk to other people about how they approach an issue and, maybe, it’ll give you the tools you need to demolish the "everyone else is allowed to" argument.

  • Help them say "no".

    Parents can be a huge help to their teenagers by giving them good arguments to use. Tell them that it’s absolutely OK to say "no", even when everyone else is saying "yes".

  • Remember that you’re a role model.

    Think about the sort of message and values you’re conveying to your child.

  • Have the courage to let go of the reins.

    Your teenager is starting to explore his or her adult identity. Be open to new things, and have the courage to let go of the reins. But show them that you’re there for them and that you’re happy to help them.

  • Show love.

    Your teenager needs to understand that you love him or her, whatever happens. Closeness and love mean a lot, however old your child may be.